What do you have to Give up to find Happiness?

 

Happiness is what we strive for. Many life changes have been made in the pursuit of happiness. How do our daily actions impact our state of happiness? What do you have to give up to be happy?  Happiness is a process not a place. Consider five things that you need to give up to be happy.

 

Give up complaining. The more you complain about something the more power, time and energy you lose thinking about something.

Give up limiting beliefs. Many times we don’t take action or avoid trying something new because we believe we can’t do it or that we might fail or make a mistake. Open up your mind all options and consider if your belief is based on your current reality.

Stop negative self-talk.

How we talk to ourselves has a big impact on our interpretation of events and how we feel about the outcome. Listen to your self-talk for a day to determine how much of it is supportive and positive or negative.

Give up on being perfect.

Perfectionism is a barrier to learning and personal development. Adults learn by trial and error. By expecting to be perfect most people avoid the very things or activities that will help them learn and grow.

Give up making choices to impress other people.

You are the one living your life. It only makes sense that you make the choices that support your own needs and goals.

Robert Biswas-Diener from Portland State University has 3 areas of focus that will improve your happiness factor. How to find Happiness article based on Biswas-Diener

  • Focus on the positive. Be optimistic.
  • Relieve your positive moments.
  • Choose to interpret events in a positive manner

Remember that what you focus on grows. So give up your negative habits to be happy.

I believe that happiness is a state of mind. You deserve to have happiness in your life. What are you willing to do right now to bring more joy into your life?

Is it that simple? Just decide to be happy? Not sure. Try a new plan. You don’t have to make changes alone.

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Make Happiness Top Priority

 

thumb_img_0793_1024What would change in your life if you decided make happiness your top priority?

Edwin Edebiri, thinks that happiness needs to be our default position and has declared himself the Chief Happiness Officer. Listen to his Ted- ex talk here. Happiness as a Default Position
He speaks to a core belief that happiness is a state you deserve to enjoy and everyone can find happiness. I agree that happiness is a state of mind that improves when you pay attention to what does make you happy. What I like about his talk is the idea that self-compassion or the ability to forgive your self is a key component to happiness.
I pulled a few ideas that appealed to me from his talk.

How to make Happiness your priority in life
1. Decide to be happy
2. Smile more and learn to laugh at yourself
3. Create a gratitude list, include what makes you happy
4. Create a list of all the things that make you unhappy and seek solutions
5. Eliminate some things that that contribute to unhappiness
6. Be active and make healthy choices for self care
7. Create a dream list and take actions towards your dreams
8. Play
Is it really that easy to become happier?

There is research that supports that idea of happiness linked to attitude and your focus on need satisfying goals. Remember that these are goals that nourish and support you, not just achievement goals.
Goals that nourish you can be long-term projects that you work on over time. Happiness comes from taking good care of your self in small ways.

What makes me happy?
I have small things that make me happy: hearing a bird sing, riding my bike instead of driving to the store, connecting with people on a summer walk, swimming and a quiet start to the day drinking tea. Consider the small things that you find pleasure in. What does make you feel good? It can be an activity or something you view or appreciate. When you pause at the end of every day and create a gratitude list, it gives you a reason to be happy. In hectic times the only thing we really can control is our attitude.

Look at the ideas above and find what fits your needs. Try one or two of them and see what happens.  Really it can be that easy to enjoy happy moments.
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