I thought meditation was about being calm and getting grounded.
What I learned from listening to *Pema Chondron is more interesting. Her definition of meditation is that to mediate you are learning to develop unconditional friendship with yourself.
That sitting and listening to your mind as it runs around all over the place takes patience and understanding. When you meditate you are seeking to just accept you wherever you are, however you are feeling right now.
Meditate for unconditional friendship with yourself
What is unconditional friendship?
An unconditional friend: listens and accepts me for who I am. A friend who doesn’t try to change, improve or fix me. If I meditate with the idea that I can be my own unconditional friend: this allows me to experience meditation as a journey of discovery. I am no longer trying so hard to do it right. What a relief.
I have learned from experience within the Quaker tradition of Sunday Meeting, that sitting in silence with a group brings synergy and energy to the quiet space of reflection.
The challenge for me now is to have an individual practice of quiet meditation.
Mediation is becoming my quiet space in the morning. It is simply a way to set up my day. A place to breathe and be still is a way to feel grounded for the rest of the day.
Do I meditate every day? No. I am practicing on myself. I allow myself the freedom to sit quietly for 1 min or 10 min, and let any choice be acceptable. I am striving to keep making those choices that support my needs.
I gain value with meditation as a practice. Practice is not about perfection, just experience. That small difference is very important. Practice to learn. Unconditional friendship starts within.
*Living with Vulnerability. Pema Chondron. Sounds True.